Random Acts Of Kindness

Perhaps, everyone has already heard about the so-called ‘modern heroes’ that schools and the social media glorify. There’s the cab driver who returned a huge lump sum of money to the business. There’s the boy who saved children from drowning. There’s another one who saved stranded animals from the flood. Add those medical students who randomly save sick people or assist moms giving birth on the streets, or even on a plane flying mid-air.

Perhaps you are overwhelmed by these deeds. Or maybe you have already asked yourselves these: Do I need to be a doctor to save lives? Do I need to go to calamity-stricken places just to show my kindness? Do I need to be a full grown-up to help people? Do I need someone to post my good deeds on the internet?

The answer? It’s a simple ‘no.’

Definition of Kindness

Try looking up the word ‘Kindness’ on any search engines or dictionary, and it will give you the following similar words: friendly, gentle, considerate, helpful, respectful, and generous among others. Kindness, in its general sense, only means doing something kind to other people. This deed doesn’t need to be extravagant. It doesn’t need to be loud. It just needs to give a positive feeling for both parties.

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‘Kindness’ doesn’t entail that the doer of the action should expect something in return. Showing someone your ‘kindness’ will never be your ticket to get a high score on an upcoming exam. Displaying ‘kindness’ in front of teachers will never guarantee you a gold medal in graduation. The act of kindness is never a request for some Divine Being to grant your wishes in mind.

Simple Gestures

No matter how young you may be, you can manifest appreciation and kindness anywhere. A school is a ‘mini community’ that can be considered a perfect replica of the real world. You, even as a student, may not even realize that what you just did this morning is already an act of kindness.

Below is a small list of gestures in school that you may not have realized yet is a simple definition of kindness:  

  • Opening the door for teachers, classmates, or for those behind you
  • Greeting school staff, janitors, and canteen vendors a pleasant morning
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  • Shooting waste correctly into the trash bins
  • Following simple hallway signs (No loiteringSilence please, No vandalizing)
  • Falling in any lines properly
  • Sharing vacant seats from your table in the cafeteria
  • Taking good care of school property (following proper computer care, not tearing and folding pages of books from the library, etc.)
  • Keeping the toilet clean for the next user
  • Not participating in any bullying
  • Doing small favors for your classmates (sharing notes and references, doing group studies)
  • Smiling
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A deed of kindness doesn’t need to be posted on different social sites or even shared on a counseling platform, shared in every stranger chat as much as it doesn’t need to be photo-shared by millions and become viral. Maybe you should try it right now, greet schoolmates in the hallways, smile at unfamiliar students in the cafeteria, or offer younger pupils old notes for reference. Never wait for something in return. A returned smile of your newly found friends will surely be enough.

Planting The Seeds To Cultivate An Attitude Of Gratitude

Every holiday season, we’re told to reflect more on the things we’re thankful. But it doesn’t just have to be on the holidays. Developing a gratitude mindset can be enjoyed all year round. Not only does it give way to positive thinking and happiness, but it also promotes cooperation and kindness within a community. Here’s how you can start to cultivate this mindset.

Start a Gratitude Journal

Let’s start it off easy. Grab a simple notebook or journal you can write on. Find a comfortable spot to sit on and think about the things you are grateful. It may be difficult for some people to do this as they may not be comfortable confronting their own emotions, but remember that this is private time.  You don’t have to let anyone read your gratitude journal if you don’t want to.

Some people may also find it difficult to turn this into a habit. After all, it may seem like another chore you have to do every day. It doesn’t have to be that way. Work through it gradually. You don’t have to write every day, just make sure to make an entry at least once a week. You can do this at the end of the week when you’re looking back at everything that had happened for the past days.

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To make things even easier, you can write about one specific something you’re grateful for. Then, you can add in details. Why are you thankful for this? Who was involved that you should give thanks? How can you help pass this on to others? You’ll soon find that the writing will just flow naturally.

Write Someone a Letter

It’s time to go old-school. Sit down at your desk and bring out the lovely stationary. Think back to someone who has made a positive impact on your life. It could be a parent, a significant other, or even a grade-school teacher. Reflect on how they have influenced your life and write that down in a letter. Be specific and add in as much detail as you can. Tell them about the good that you’ve done because of it. It’ll make their day, and it passes on good vibes around to everyone.

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Take a Break from Life

Sometimes it’s hard to take a step back when you’re all caught up in life. In the digital age, everything happens so quickly. So put the phone down, step away from the computer and enjoy some downtime.

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Putting yourself in a situation where you’re not so distracted by everything will allow you to think clearly. It’ll give you time to focus on things that have happened, making you remember past events you may be thankful for. Doing this also allows you to live in the moment, enjoying the now and being grateful for it.

Give Yourself Credit

Like RuPaul likes to say, “If you don’t love yourself, then how you gonna love someone else?” It’s the same for being grateful. You have to give yourself credit for the things you do and for getting by. Acknowledge your achievements, and don’t compare yourself to others. Recognize that you are following your own pace. Learn to look at even the little things and self-appreciate.

How To Show Appreciation To Your Spouse

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When couples get married and eventually start a family, they tend to neglect their love for one another as a shift to fulfill duties and obligations arise. There are many strategies that marriage counselors and therapists recommend to sustain a healthy and meaningful marriage life. This article will focus on the most common and simple ways to protect your relationship and love for each other.

Effects of being taken for granted

Underappreciation is one of the many reasons why couples fight, find someone else to fill the gap, and eventually, get separated and divorced. Women especially go into bouts of depression and low self-esteem, while husbands may feel belittled if their partners do not show any single appreciation of the things that they do. BetterHelp, an online counseling website, has a lot to say about relationships going down the drain due to neglect and attention of partners.

Appreciate Your Spouse

Saying thank you can go a long way, especially if you say this to your spouse with more love and tenderness. A ‘thank you’ can be expressed from the very simplest manner of just blurting it out after a deed or task being done. Still, there are other unique ways to extend this positive vibe. Here are some unique ways to show appreciation:

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  1. Make breakfast in bed and place a thank you note on the tray. Exert some effort to wake up early and prepare breakfast for your partner.
  2. Leave thank you notes in the bathroom mirror, on the fridge or anywhere that he/she will see immediately.
  3. In the norms of social media mainstream, posting a thank you message in Facebook or tweeting thank you to your spouse can be very influential and can increase one’s self-esteem.
  4. Arrange a date and take a couples’ alone time together to talk about the things that you appreciate.
  5. Buy him/her a gift and add a thank you note. It does not have to be super fancy. The thought that you take the time to get that basketball shoes he always wanted or the handbag that she always goes back to check in the shop will be sufficient. This will surely make your partner’s day sparkle.
  6. Show off your gratitude by hugging and kissing. Physical contact is believed to help release endorphins or our happy hormones. It does not only makes us grateful, but it will also help to show how you love your partner for being there always.
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The strategies above are just some of the few that you can try to demonstrate amorous affection and appreciation to your spouse. You can modify it or even add more spice just to make it more exciting. Getting married may be the final step to be together. However, staying married is a lifelong commitment to keeping the relationship afloat and the fire of love burning.

Combating Depression With Gratitude

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Though the fight may seem like it already ended, coming home is not what it used to be for our beloved military people. For some, there is a never-ending war in their minds. Repetitive sounds of bombs going off, children crying, the voices of their fallen comrades, and showers of bullets are probably killing them in their sleep right now.

Depression is a very common symptom of PTSD or Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. This is commonly known as “shell shock” or “combat stress”. The symptoms brought by a combat stress can be very agonizing for war veterans.

Combat stress gives a very heavy burden which is likened to the feeling of having the battlefield inside the mind. A lot of veterans would suffer from depression brought by the intense amount of stress from their experiences during the war.

Now, you probably are feeling the urge to help out or reach out to these people. We all have been blessed with brave men and women who are ready to risk their lives even if it means suffering physically and mentally.

Now is the time to show our gratitude by helping them out in whatever situation they are in right now. The question is, with the feeling of gratitude we have in our hearts, how can we help them fight depression?

Reach Out And Talk To Them

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Find someone whom you can thank for serving in the military. For people who are suffering from depression, it is a great help to make them feel that someone is there for them. Moreover, it would really have a greater effect on them to find out that some stranger is grateful for their lives.

If you feel like saying “thank you” is not enough, do what you think will make our heroes feel good. Take them out for lunch. Drive them to your friends and families. Let them share their inspiring stories to your loved ones.

Let them know that they are important and everything they have experienced is recognized. There are people who acknowledge their greatness and contribution to our country.

Volunteer And Initiate Professional Help

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We all know that the best way to approach depression is through  professional help and proper treatment. If you are not a professional, do not stop helping. You can always volunteer and give a hand not only to our soldiers but also to institutions and organizations who have the same mission. There are several groups and organizations out there that want to help out war veterans.

Soldier On is an organization that offers free service to veterans. You can do your research to find some institutions near you that would cater to volunteers. You can also offer to connect mental health professionals to war veterans who are not yet connected with one.

Share Awareness

Share the truth about the condition of our war veterans. This is one way to show that you are really grateful for their sacrifices. Talk about this to your friends and families. Maybe, like you, they will also feel grateful for the sacrifices of our heroes.

One reality about the mental health field for militaries is that there are not enough psychiatrists for veterans as reported by The San Diego Union-Tribune. If you are a medical professional, a psychiatrist to be specific, another way to help out is to offer your services to the veterans. Talk about this need for mental health care. Who knows, you might just meet someone who is willing to help out our veterans!