Random Acts Of Kindness

Perhaps, everyone has already heard about the so-called ‘modern heroes’ that schools and the social media glorify. There’s the cab driver who returned a huge lump sum of money to the business. There’s the boy who saved children from drowning. There’s another one who saved stranded animals from the flood. Add those medical students who randomly save sick people or assist moms giving birth on the streets, or even on a plane flying mid-air.

Perhaps you are overwhelmed by these deeds. Or maybe you have already asked yourselves these: Do I need to be a doctor to save lives? Do I need to go to calamity-stricken places just to show my kindness? Do I need to be a full grown-up to help people? Do I need someone to post my good deeds on the internet?

The answer? It’s a simple ‘no.’

Definition of Kindness

Try looking up the word ‘Kindness’ on any search engines or dictionary, and it will give you the following similar words: friendly, gentle, considerate, helpful, respectful, and generous among others. Kindness, in its general sense, only means doing something kind to other people. This deed doesn’t need to be extravagant. It doesn’t need to be loud. It just needs to give a positive feeling for both parties.

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‘Kindness’ doesn’t entail that the doer of the action should expect something in return. Showing someone your ‘kindness’ will never be your ticket to get a high score on an upcoming exam. Displaying ‘kindness’ in front of teachers will never guarantee you a gold medal in graduation. The act of kindness is never a request for some Divine Being to grant your wishes in mind.

Simple Gestures

No matter how young you may be, you can manifest appreciation and kindness anywhere. A school is a ‘mini community’ that can be considered a perfect replica of the real world. You, even as a student, may not even realize that what you just did this morning is already an act of kindness.

Below is a small list of gestures in school that you may not have realized yet is a simple definition of kindness:  

  • Opening the door for teachers, classmates, or for those behind you
  • Greeting school staff, janitors, and canteen vendors a pleasant morning
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  • Shooting waste correctly into the trash bins
  • Following simple hallway signs (No loiteringSilence please, No vandalizing)
  • Falling in any lines properly
  • Sharing vacant seats from your table in the cafeteria
  • Taking good care of school property (following proper computer care, not tearing and folding pages of books from the library, etc.)
  • Keeping the toilet clean for the next user
  • Not participating in any bullying
  • Doing small favors for your classmates (sharing notes and references, doing group studies)
  • Smiling
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A deed of kindness doesn’t need to be posted on different social sites or even shared on a counseling platform, shared in every stranger chat as much as it doesn’t need to be photo-shared by millions and become viral. Maybe you should try it right now, greet schoolmates in the hallways, smile at unfamiliar students in the cafeteria, or offer younger pupils old notes for reference. Never wait for something in return. A returned smile of your newly found friends will surely be enough.

Planting The Seeds To Cultivate An Attitude Of Gratitude

Every holiday season, we’re told to reflect more on the things we’re thankful. But it doesn’t just have to be on the holidays. Developing a gratitude mindset can be enjoyed all year round. Not only does it give way to positive thinking and happiness, but it also promotes cooperation and kindness within a community. Here’s how you can start to cultivate this mindset.

Start a Gratitude Journal

Let’s start it off easy. Grab a simple notebook or journal you can write on. Find a comfortable spot to sit on and think about the things you are grateful. It may be difficult for some people to do this as they may not be comfortable confronting their own emotions, but remember that this is private time.  You don’t have to let anyone read your gratitude journal if you don’t want to.

Some people may also find it difficult to turn this into a habit. After all, it may seem like another chore you have to do every day. It doesn’t have to be that way. Work through it gradually. You don’t have to write every day, just make sure to make an entry at least once a week. You can do this at the end of the week when you’re looking back at everything that had happened for the past days.

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To make things even easier, you can write about one specific something you’re grateful for. Then, you can add in details. Why are you thankful for this? Who was involved that you should give thanks? How can you help pass this on to others? You’ll soon find that the writing will just flow naturally.

Write Someone a Letter

It’s time to go old-school. Sit down at your desk and bring out the lovely stationary. Think back to someone who has made a positive impact on your life. It could be a parent, a significant other, or even a grade-school teacher. Reflect on how they have influenced your life and write that down in a letter. Be specific and add in as much detail as you can. Tell them about the good that you’ve done because of it. It’ll make their day, and it passes on good vibes around to everyone.

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Take a Break from Life

Sometimes it’s hard to take a step back when you’re all caught up in life. In the digital age, everything happens so quickly. So put the phone down, step away from the computer and enjoy some downtime.

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Putting yourself in a situation where you’re not so distracted by everything will allow you to think clearly. It’ll give you time to focus on things that have happened, making you remember past events you may be thankful for. Doing this also allows you to live in the moment, enjoying the now and being grateful for it.

Give Yourself Credit

Like RuPaul likes to say, “If you don’t love yourself, then how you gonna love someone else?” It’s the same for being grateful. You have to give yourself credit for the things you do and for getting by. Acknowledge your achievements, and don’t compare yourself to others. Recognize that you are following your own pace. Learn to look at even the little things and self-appreciate.