“It is better to give than to receive.” An old cliche we often encounter in donation boxes, panhandlers, and even our friends. However, we would like to highlight another famous quotation saying, “give a man a fish and he will live for a day, but teach the man how to fish and he will live for the rest of his life.” We believe that kindness is a trend that never goes out of style. It is also vital that we realize that in paying forward and spreading kindness, it is not only shown in dole out or almsgiving. It is very helpful to society and mankind to take charge and be on the giving end.
“It feels good to do something nice for someone. It boosts your self-esteem, it makes you feel like a better person, and it can help you overcome any negative feelings you are experiencing at the moment,” says licensed clinical psychologist, Sarah Schewitz, PsyD.
Ways to say “Thank You!”
Kindness and appreciation are not only shown in the form of gifts or money. A thank you can also be shown by giving time to another person and sharing talents or information. Another gesture of gratefulness is by helping others in whatever way possible, no matter how big or small that gesture is.
Saying thank you in the form of gifts and surprises.
When picking gifts for the significant people in our lives such as family, relatives, and friends, we should take into consideration the things that these people value. It does not mean that if we like bags or clothes, these people want to receive the same gifts as well. Some people are happy with quality time over a good conversation and a cup of coffee. We must take into consideration the kind of gifts that actually make them happy and not just assume what they will like according to our standards.
On the other hand, American philosopher and psychologist William James said, “The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated. When you say thank you, you’re meeting that basic human need.”
Paying it forward by sharing your talents.
If you know how to play the guitar, maybe you can give free classes. Maybe you’re good at dancing or maybe you can organize a fundraising activity and give the proceeds to help send children to school. We are all created with unique characteristics that can make this world a better place.
Moreover, there are resources available online such as counseling and online therapy that can provide information and guidance regarding activities on how to show deep appreciation to others. May it be showing appreciation to the neighbor who lends a helping hand or a co-worker that helps you to get through a rough day. Participating in volunteer work can also be helpful. You can also contribute and allocate a portion of your income in stipends or give it to charitable institutions to aid their causes.
It means a lot..so try it today
It has been said that life is a cycle of give and take, withdraw and deposit or we reap what we sow. The more acts of kindness we do for other people doesn’t mean that we expect them to return or reciprocate it. “Research suggests that individuals who are grateful in their daily lives actually report fewer stress-related health symptoms, including headaches, gastrointestinal (stomach) issues, chest pain, muscle aches, and appetite problems,” says Sheela Raja, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist.
Sometimes, the law of karma has its own way of dealing with things. If you give bread, do not expect bread in return from that person. Sometimes, the gift comes back to you in a different form. It could be your wish being granted or things that are not tangible and visible to the eye. Therefore, never stop paying it forward. You’ll never know that the unkind person you touched today might pass the kindness on.