When it comes to dating, most individuals might already have tons of experiences on how to make a perfect first impression. Making sure that they have the perfect attire, the perfect restaurant, the perfect introduction, they got it all covered. According to Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D., “It seems that you can learn a lot by meeting thousands of potential dating partners.” But what if you are going on a date with someone from the army? Particularly, a lady soldier?
Dating a lady soldier makes the whole experience of dating exciting and chaotic in a way. You have to make sure that you would impress her during the first date because a soldier like her, who serves the country, does not have tons of free time. Therefore, you better not waste her precious time.
To help you in your agony, here are some simple tips that can help you to build your confidence and leave a good impression on that lady soldier.
“The best advice is to be yourself and try not to act any differently,” says Elvina Lui, MFT. As simple as it may sound, this is actually one of the faults of many people when going on dates. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you are not to impress your lady soldier. Given her field of job, she already met different personalities in different people. If you want to be remembered as you, you have to be you. No more shenanigans or copying styles. Your date will surely appreciate your genuine personality.
Being a soldier equips you with several survival skills and experiences. You don’t have to dress up in gold or drive in a Ferrari to catch her attention. I’m sure those things will catch her attention but you don’t want to be known as the walking gold bar. Stay simple. Simple gestures, such as telling her that she is beautiful in her dress, can already go a long way.
Don’t Be Overly Masculine
The tendency of men when dating a lady soldier is that they always want to show off how masculine they are. They want the lady soldier to know that they can protect her. However, doing this spreads the vibe of insecurity. Not because her job is a physically demanding one, you have to be stronger or more fit than her. Just be a man. Be you. Stay simple. For sure, she would appreciate that her job doesn’t intimidate you.
Talk About Other Things Besides Being A Soldier
We get that dating a lady soldier is pretty hot. But, you have to give her a break. Don’t talk about being a soldier all night long. Having to deal with dangerous missions in her daily life is enough. Don’t suffocate her by asking questions about being a soldier. If she talks about being a soldier, then so be it. Just don’t force her or lead her unconsciously to do so.
Use these simple tips on your first date. You never know – they might be the key for that second date. Andrea Schneider, MSW, LCSW suggested to “Look for the following qualities that are essential ingredients in healthy connection: empathy, honesty, integrity, authenticity, reciprocity, compromise, accountability, trust and respect.” If you are having trouble to build your confidence, you might want to check out online counseling to get help from professional psychologists and therapists. Have fun and enjoy it!