Why is it important to say thank you?
The question may be off to you. Or you might think, where is this leading to? Simple. I’m just asking why do we need to say thank you? Does it matter much? Let’s examine some important discussions.
“What? No thank you?!”
Over a month ago, I was chatting with this lady online and we were trading stories about hobbies and collections. I openly shared that I am a collector of Starbucks City Mugs. She also claimed the same thing. Gaining affinity to her, I decided to send her three City Mugs that I have as double pieces and no longer need anyway.
I was hoping to hear back from her online stating that she received the package, but to my dismay, I never got one. I sent her emails following up and checking up on her to see if maybe she got sick or god-knows-what happened to her. But really, I did not receive an acknowledgment nor a thank you note from her. What would you feel if you were in my situation? According to Amie M. Gordon, Ph.D., “This is true of sharing gratitude in so many areas of our lives—we rarely take the time to meaningfully thank people who make a difference in our lives, big or small, because we don’t realize the impact it will have on them.”
Well, maybe you will blame me for trusting a person I only met online and sent out a package to her instantly, so this just suits me. Nonetheless, the point of the matter here is the good manner of showing appreciation to the deed. Just by saying “Thank you,” it can really go a long way. “During a moment of offering kindness, there’s a certain kind of connection that can happen, especially if the other person receives it graciously,” according to John Amodeo Ph.D., MFT.
“Thank you” are powerful words that can move us to do more positive things or simply increase our self-esteem. When somebody says ‘thank you’ to you for a simple act that you did for them, the feeling of being appreciated and that sense of importance is overwhelming.
In the corporate world, being recognized for your hard work is seldom shown. Maybe because the big bosses do not want to be intimidated by your pro-activity or smartness in your work. Sadly, this culture still continues to exist. Employees sometimes find it disheartening that their best work is not taken seriously. Under-appreciation is mostly the name of the game. By this, productiveness and the success of employees sometimes suffer along with it.
Psychologists and thank you therapy experts support the idea that by saying ‘thank you’ to a person, the dramatic change of motivating and inspiring to do more good things are significant. In children, we can easily detect or see in their behavior that there is increased self-confidence. However, it’s quite difficult to see this in adults. Nonetheless, we are already creating a positive psychological drive to do more prosocial behavior in the future.